
What I learned from Miller's book was that making moments memorable is vastly important in the context of living a good story. There is no story to working hard and being a nice person and living monotonously. But pushing yourself to do things that you are a little bit afraid of, doing monotonous things in a memorable way, interacting with all kinds of people in a respectful and thoughtful way....those are ways to live a good story. This might seem silly to some people, but that thought is the validation I needed to believe that having fun has an actual purpose and IS practical. And so, I began my trip acknowledging that I was afraid, the thought of navigating a city with the reputation (among conservative Christians anyway) as San Francisco made me anxious, and interacting with Robb's co-workers daunted me, considering how incompetent I was feeling with my own little business.
Phew. You just wanted to see the pictures. You forgot that my blog is my personal therapy.
By the time we got to Memphis, I was ready to try my first First. Because he flies a lot, Robb was upgraded to first class. Because he is the best man in the world, he promptly told me that I would be sitting in that seat and he would take the crowded seat in coach for the four hour flight. He instructed me to eat and drink anything I wanted and to just generally live it up.
It wasn't very long before I made the acquaintance of my seat mate...a beautiful woman with the New York Times spread out on her lap. Perfect teeth. Perfect clothes. Comfortable but not the least bit messy. Works for Xerox. But could work for anyone she wants...I could tell that without her being crass enough to say so. Hadn't seen her husband since Valentines' Day and was perturbed that he had flown back into town and was currently in the terminal while she and I sat on the tarmac waiting for another hour to take off. "Oh, tell him to beg the attendant to let him come visit you!" I suggested romantically. She laughed "Oh he's Indian, so they would just arrest him and think he was a terrorist." She was born in India, lived in Holland, attended Georgetown. Sometimes Catholic, mostly suspicious of organized religion. The same age as me. Married five years, with no kids as her husband had been in medical school for years and she was the primary breadwinner. She showed me the house they just bought in Denver....a stunning piece of architecture owned by a architectural photographer. The trim was painted black. The floors were delicious. She was obviously smitten with the house and mourned only that a Bacardi commercial was scheduled to be shot there just before they closed on it. "If they could just wait a week." We talked for 2 solid hours like little girls at a slumber party. At the mention of my Etsy store, she was intrigued. Out came the iPhone and she enthusiastically scrolled through all 18 pages of my shop. I told her how much good she did my confidence as we sipped red wine and discussed whole food, why Christians protest at abortion clinics, the economy and how I decide if something belongs in the Etsy store. I liked her immensely. I think I amused her.
We couldn't be any more different. And yet, we spent a pleasant time revealing what life looks like on the other side of the fence. And you know what? It isn't necessarily better. It is just different. How freeing is that?
Robb's socks and undies, packed in the front pocket of his bag, sat soaking in rainwater on the cart in Memphis, so it was amusing to us both to spread them out to dry across the elegant room. And then we tried to sleep, awakened off an on by a dozen or more texts from Mattie, who had Robb's extra phone. Our "favorite" then was at 4 am..."We are getting up to get ready for school. Don't text us back because we'll be in school by then."
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