just feel so sad for a friend's problems that you have a hard time enjoying yourself? I do. I know these friends wouldn't want me too, but I just feel so badly for them. And yeah, you pray for them, but your prayer sounds like this...
"Dear Lord....
ARUUARUAUAUGUGGHGHHH. Ya know what I'm saying Lord?"
And he does know what your saying, but you are still sad... you know?
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It is a waste of energy to feel bad for them. You can empathize, but..it is THEIR burden to carry not yours.
God didn't give you whatever they are going through..he gave it to them...(or their sin choices whatever brought it to them)...so yah..listen, nod at the right time, but don't internalize their stuff for you.
You got your own baggage....Yah..and don't think I'm not thinking about that verse, "bear ye one another's burden's"..but you have to do it..Ok..well Now I don't know what to say after that verse.
oh Ness, I so understand. You sound just like me. And people like Donna (no offense intended) can try to tell me this all they want, but I still can't feel any differently. That's the way I'm wired - for good or for bad. My friend tried to get me to read Boundaries - it just frustrated me. Sometimes it's hard to tell where I stop and others start. But still - if I feel the burden, if I feel the pain, who am I to question the way God made me and uses me? What is right for someone else my just not be right for me. Does that makes sense? But it does make for a lot of incarnational pain.....a
I know Donna and I know what she is saying...having survived a lot ...and I mean A LOT...she has had to slough off other people's feelings in order to keep functioning...to stay human and alive.
And Karen, you and I very much alike...always cautious, always trying to save people from grief, always feeling the grief they bring on themselves with their own choices.
I think I just feel sad. Just sad. That's all. It's not complicated or dramatic. I just feel sad for them. I know it's outside the sphere of my influence, it's just not out of the sphere of my concern.
And also, I think in the whole baggage department, I travel pretty light, so I'm free to carry other people's stuff a little easier. It's part of my "vanilla" upbringing :)
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