tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17139371.post4653169117420305469..comments2024-03-07T09:03:05.404-06:00Comments on The Vintage Butterfly: My Treatise on Being a Pastor's Wife-Part 2Vanessahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08071728508673942664noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17139371.post-55442914311467406022007-08-23T15:39:00.000-05:002007-08-23T15:39:00.000-05:00hey Amy, the quick answer is central time. I t...hey Amy, the quick answer is central time. I think we have a lot we could talk about !!!Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08071728508673942664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17139371.post-75141883106511701152007-08-23T15:34:00.000-05:002007-08-23T15:34:00.000-05:00Are you central or eastern time zone?Are you central or eastern time zone?Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14836520444892302375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17139371.post-26460339181678323452007-08-23T15:30:00.000-05:002007-08-23T15:30:00.000-05:00I read your post yesterday but I'm with Sara in th...I read your post yesterday but I'm with Sara in that I didn't know what to say yet...I was waiting on Part 2.<BR/><BR/>Definitely not boring. I'm fascinated with how different pastor's wives see their roles and I find it's not usually how "we" see your roles or how "we" think you see your role, as wife.<BR/><BR/>I agree with AKR in that every leadership position has a pedestal on which one is to stand...with their whole family; I do think, however, that "ministry pedestals" are MUCH higher, MUCH narrower and have a rounded bottom. If or when you decide to step off the pedestal or decide not to even get on, it can be very painful.<BR/><BR/>The "first lady" thing struck me funny b/c someone today teasingly called me the "First Lady of the School" and I smiled b/c it was silly, of course, but I don't really know what to think of it yet.<BR/><BR/>I should write a post on this and I probably am right here...I feel so immature still in my role, as I just discovered for myself not long ago that I'm different in the eyes of alot of people. I never saw myself as "special" and I don't want to be, really. I'm just a regular gal, whose hubby happens to run the school. I don't want people to act different around me or think they can or cannot say things in front of me b/c of my hubby. Part of that is my getting to know everybody and letting them know what I'm about. That's hard for me b/c I'm a total introvert. This is part of that "leaving my comfort zone" that I've had to confront time and time again that past year.<BR/><BR/>More later. This is about you, not me and its pickup time at school.<BR/><BR/>Thanks, Ness!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14836520444892302375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17139371.post-61860174726775413602007-08-22T15:27:00.000-05:002007-08-22T15:27:00.000-05:00Yep..I can vouch for the chemistry thing too!!I th...Yep..I can vouch for the chemistry thing too!!<BR/><BR/>I think you have some great insights. I love being an part of it with Kevin...it was the part we really missed when we lived in Cortland and were serving in different ministries.<BR/><BR/>With family...that's why I love ministry is because it was our family's ministry and we were a part of it...were there times I was tired of it? Heck yeah but I wouldn't trade it for the world and it taught me so many valuable lessons.<BR/><BR/>I totally understand the whole bible study for older woman thing too...I am going to start helping lead a women's class and looking forward to more facilitating than anything else...I love to get them talking and learn from them.<BR/><BR/>The pedestal, example thing is hard but I don't think it's necessarily wrong...any leadership position has that in or out of ministry. I don't always enjoy it and it's really intimidating at times but it's also inevitable.akrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10828054560267505522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17139371.post-2735903876041169632007-08-22T13:33:00.000-05:002007-08-22T13:33:00.000-05:00Okay, I have to say that your post are definitely ...Okay, I have to say that your post are definitely not boring. I bet that there are just people out there like me that just don't know what to say to posts like this.<BR/><BR/>I can't say "Well, i hear you there" because i don't know what it's like to be a Pastor's wife, i don't know what it's like to want to even marry a pastor. The things that i dreamed of doing in ministry when i was younger really didn't include a husband because, well, i didn't think that i would ever get married.<BR/><BR/>Now, here I am not in any full time ministry about to marry not a Pastor but a wonderful hardworking man...who isn't even sure if God would have him be a pastor.<BR/><BR/>Right now we both know that we are going to work really hard at paying off our college loans, and saving up some money for him to go to a seminary, someday...but that day could be a long ways off yet.<BR/><BR/>For now, i know what its like to be young, single, and about to be married, living in a new part of the country waiting for one adventure to end and another begin...<BR/><BR/>So, with that being where i am at in life, i don't always know what to say to you, older and wiser women whom have already 'been there and done that.'Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08795538413354707685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17139371.post-86316873091754795732007-08-22T11:09:00.000-05:002007-08-22T11:09:00.000-05:00Sometimes I equate the desire to be a pastor's wif...Sometimes I equate the desire to be a pastor's wife up with wanting to be the First Lady or a famous actress--not everybody wants it and not everybody should try it. :) I also don't think it's weird that you don't refer to yourself as a pastor's wife here on your blog because it's kind of like saying that everybody else should identify themselves like that too..."Hi, it's me, Courtney the pastry chef/mom/lawyer's wife..." everything hyphenated as a title. It also lends itself to a hush falling over the crowd as you speak your "especially wise" words. Why do we do that to each other? I set you up on a pedastel and you do your darndest to balance there...what crap.<BR/>Having a pastor/pastor's wife for a brother-in-law and sister is kind of like having a priest for a brother--you grew up together so you've got all the dirt on them and they on you so you can't ever worship in their congregation :) <BR/><BR/>Is Robb still moping?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17139371.post-33158017636548904712007-08-22T10:14:00.000-05:002007-08-22T10:14:00.000-05:00I don't have enough time to read the whole post, b...I don't have enough time to read the whole post, but I'll be back...I can vouch for the chemistry thing though. I know A can too = )Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02802735137126269213noreply@blogger.com